There are many things that you are going to need to prove when you are fighting for visitation with your child after you have established paternity. The main thing that you have to remember is that you need to be able to prove that you are able to properly care for the child when he/she is in custody with you. It’s also important to come up with a custody or visitation plan that is in the best interest of your child(ren).
Questions to Ask Yourself
The main thing that you will need to do is make sure that you answer these questions for yourself. Each one is going to be asked while you are in court.What is your current housing situation?
You are going to need to prove that you are able to have a stable environment for your child to live in. In some states, you will have to be able to provide separate bedrooms depending on your child’s sex. Make sure that you talk to a legal professional so that you have all of your stuff in order when you head into the courtroom.
What was the dynamic of your home when living together? Who did what with your child?
It is really important to show the type of things that you did with your child when you were married. If you were not really that involved, then you are not likely to get the same visitation rights that you would have if you were involved 50/50 with your soon to be ex.
If you have not had contact with the child? Why?
Think about the reasons that you have not been with your child. If your ex is keeping you from your child, make sure that you are documenting all attempts that you are making to be with the child. Keep documentation of all contact and all attempts for proof in court.
Think about your past. Could anyone say that you (or your ex) have an issue with anger, abuse, alcohol or drug use/abuse?
If either of you have had issues in the past, then staying away from a lifestyle that could potentially show that you are involved with this again is important. It is important to have proof of your stability. However, if you are not stable then it is important to get the help that you need so that you can be the best for your child.
Know Your Rights and What You Should Be Doing
The first thing that you should do is talk to a legal professional about your rights as a parent. Ask about visitation and what steps you should be following.
Make Your Own Plan
Even if your ex has a plan. Make your own plan that allows for visitation and time spent with each parent. Having a plan in hand will help if your ex proposes a plan that you do not agree with.
Always Make Sure Your Child is Ready
When it is time to meet the other parent, make sure that you are not late. Take the time to prepare your child for the transition and talk to them about it.
Spend Every Minute with Your Child That You Can
It does not matter what else you have going on. Make sure that your child is your number one priority. Doing this will keep your child from feeling rejection and will show your effort to be a parent.
Make Sure that You Are Always on Time
Of course, emergencies happen from time to time or something might come up that would cause you to be late. This means that you want to be on time as much as possible. Showing up on time will keep you from having any future issues with your ex.
Have a Room and Space Set Up for Your Child
Your child will need their own space in your home. Make sure that there is a place where they will have toys and be able to play. Also make sure that you have a room for them that is ready with the things that they will need.
Never Keep Your Child From Communicating with Your Ex
No matter what. When you have your child, allow them to freely communicate with your ex. If they want to call their other parent, they should have that right to do so.
Keep Your Ex Updated
Your ex should always have your personal information. They need your phone number and address so keep them updated. If there is a reason that they should not have this information, then talk to your lawyer and make sure that your lawyer has what they need in case there is an emergency.
Fighting for visitation is never an easy subject. When you are in this situation, there is a lot that you want to be able to do. Being able to make sure that you are going to have the best possible chances of having the visitation time that you deserve only requires that you show your desire and ability to care for your child.